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P.R.O.F.I.L.E

ramblings of a teenage girl

NANIE, 22
24 JUNE 1989
BACHELOR OF MECHANICAL ENGINEERING
SHE LOVES HER FAMILY
AND FRIENDS

MY SWEET RANDOM FACTS
My name isn't Nanie.
I 0ften c0nfuse w0rst and w0rse.
I have never dyed my hair. I am ‘au natural’.
The first thing I d0 when I wake up is reach f0r my henf0n
I used t0 be really creative. WHERE HAS IT ALL GONE?!heh
My sense 0f hum0r is vast and 0dd. I laugh a l0t at stupid little things.
I talk t0o much and, if I’m really passi0nate ab0ut s0mething, t0o fast.
My star sign is Leo, and I kn0w these things are bullshit but
I d0 feel like the characteristics describe me quite well.

Tried to write a letter, In ink
I've got a peice of paper

Confusion Indeed

Saturday, September 3, 2011 ( 12:40 AM )

Are you hurting from a breakup?

Kecewa, rasa nak telan paracetamol banyak-banyak, nak bunuh diri..okay-okay serious.

And does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?

But what if it didn't have to be over?

What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?

Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to get your ex back, you will have to be calm and HAVE A PLAN. 90% of breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.

DON'T 1 : Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy

After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. Melayu says like gila meroyan. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.Frequently posts about your ex on your wall (Facebook dummies.what else) like : "sayang I rindukan you, please maafkan I" only caused your ex further away from you. Plus, it will annoyed people.Sekali dua maybe can be considered as fine but what if selang 5 minutes post and keep posting? *sigh* Oh, those 'be strong' comments/feedback seems like no honest though.

Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is so unattractive. So please do not claim that you are attractive enough. *vomit* It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.

DON'T 2 : The Doormat Syndrome

The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.

If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.

You don’t want that.No no no. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –

a) It’s unattractive. Again. Entah apa-apa. As mentioned before, nobody is attracted to someone who doesn't have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want to win your ex back.

b) Even if you do get your ex back like this, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. Kesian kan.

DON'T 3 : Smothering Them With Affection

The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea. Haha

Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn't they? Your status now changed from in a relationship with to single, no? So what's the point weh

So, ayat manis or so called pujuk rayu “I love you” and “I really really care for you honey” isn't what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.

DON'T 4 : Giving Them All The Power

At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.

Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to queue you in desperate lists. Repeated, DESPERATE. *rolling eyes*

DON'T 5 : Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else

After a breakup, you feel really hurting. At this very moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you.

In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn't right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will break up with them.

So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn't be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.

Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life, it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.

So, now you know what are the things that you SHOULDN'T do to get your ex back.

Tapi, apa cerita jika bekas anda tidak kembali kepada anda juga? Give up? or should you keep waiting? Pull out of this mess and will ever convince your ex to give you a second chance?

If u really think your ex is the right one, obviously he/she’s not ready for a serious relationship. He/she just wants you as a friend, so get real. But if you want him/her, just be a friend at this point in time. You can push the horse to the water but you can not make him drink! Time plays a big factor here.

Logically, its very simple, be your ex best friend even if for a long time, this way you will even know your ex better. Do not break any communication, even just text or a simple hello, just saying hi pun dah okay. Talk about everyday things.It may not be easy in the beginning, but just program your mind for this. And one more thing, do not be constantly calling or FB ing him. Nanti nampak pulak mengharap. Sometimes emosi ni bukan bole percaya sangat. Remember the rule of “variety” which means, do it at diff patterns like call this week, lets say every weekend when he’s rested, then after that do it at random, but you can also go when he wants to see you, but remember, as a friend, sort of BFF. Do not beg for anything, trust me, people always yearn for something they can not have. Good luck.